3 Ways To Avoid Being Unintentionally Judgmental

I want to share a story with you about my trafficking days...

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I was leaving the Mandalay Bay on a call with another “working girl.” She asked if she could talk to me for a moment. Instantly, my mind went to: She's going to rob me. See, in “The Life” when times of the year got slow, some traffickers would rob other working girls. They'd wait out in the parking garages of nice hotels and when they'd see one of us hurrying to our car, they'd rob you. The reason why this was SO nerve racking for us, was because if you got robbed, your trafficker was more than likely going to blame you for “being stupid” or not checking out the scene and obeying him, which more than likely led to a beating. So on top of the robbery, you also got beaten at home. Double Negative.

Suspiciously, I agreed to step aside from my rush to my vehicle and let her talk to me for a moment.

“I dont know if you know God, but I have this feeling I need to talk to you about Him...”

Uncontrollably, instantly, I started bawling. I hid my face in my hands, and my posture was as if someone was pushing my head down into a bowing position. I couldn't stop crying. I couldn't look at her.

She put her hand on my shoulder and said “Do not be afraid. God loves you but He wants you to know that the path you are on is going to kill you.”

Thats all I remember. I dont remember if I responded, or how I responded other than the uncontrollable, hiding of my face and crying for what seemed like eternity.


Fastforward months and months later, I was in rehab. If you've heard my story, then you know what I am talking about when I say, I was in rehab, that christian rehab... (the comedic disdain would be evident in person, lol).

I woke up bootcamp style, which was typical for this home, and went into our morning required Bible reading time. On the wall each morning was a chapter or so allowing us to read through the Bible in a year. I opened up to the assigned passage and read this:

Isaiah 43:1-2

But now, this is what the LORD says-- he who created you, O Jacob, he who formed you, O Israel: "Fear not, for I have redeemed you; I have summoned you by name; you are mine. 2 When you pass through the waters, I will be with you; and when you pass through the rivers, they will not sweep over you. When you walk through the fire, you will not be burned; the flames will not set you ablaze

Exodus 3:6 (latter end)

...When Moses heard this, he hid his face in his hands because he was afraid to look at God.

You can see the similarities in the verse I read that morning and the weird encournter I had with a former trafficked girl. This couldn't have been a coincidence to me, this couldn't have been by chance. The same spirit of God that spoke to Moses had been there in the parking garage with me that night.

What does this have to do with Judgement???? Nothing!

Other than, you never know someone's past or future. You never know where they are at on their walk with the Lord and how God is going to use them in their future. Being judgemental is expecting someone to be right where you are at on your journey toward growth. We are all at different places in our maturity and walk with the Lord.

Unintentional judgement is expecting everyone to be at the same place as you on their journey of growth.

  1. Love them RIGHT where they are at on their journey.

  2. Don't play Holy Spirit in other people's lives.

  3. Do not measure everyone by the same stick as you.

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