Recently I made a couple of mental breakthroughs regarding how I view and speak about my body. I am at the heaviest I have been in my whole entire life—so this is one of the greatest mental struggles I've overcome.
One of my breakthroughs came through my life coach session that was provided to me through RBI's Elevate Academy. My life coach, Melanie Huggard, asked me if I would talk to my best friend the way I talk about myself? She then went on to act out a scene of me talking down to myself, with words I often would say about my own body. I sat there after our session and pondered the value of my words and the valuable lesson I learned in that session. I know from experience how words can destroy you—how words can get so deep into your soul that they can define you, until you decide to take the labels off yourself.
Another breakthrough came recently while I was awake on my bed. I was starting to say my morning prayers and talk to God, as well as do an exercise I got from Melanie—find three things to love about my body. For me, at that moment I asked the Lord specifically about the one area that has always bothered me, my stomach. I asked the Lord to reveal to me something positive about my stomach (because I couldn’t think of anything) that I could appreciate. The thought of my children was one of them, God has blessed me with 5 children that I have birthed. My stomach held 5 babies in it. Then I heard in my spirit the word, “YOUR SCARS.” At first, I couldn’t comprehend what that meant regarding me being positive about my stomach. Then that deep unspoken voice said it again, “your scars.” Then I was brought back to a time when I was being trafficked and a couple of us, teenage girls, were taken to a home in Hollywood where we were told we had to take some pictures. I hated the camera. I knew that the pictures were going to be a permanent still frame of us and it wasn’t to hold a special occasion, but rather one of great sadness. But at the time, my stretch marks on my stomach were still a maroon color from having my oldest son and so, because of that,, they didn’t take many photos of me. And now I appreciate them—I had never looked at them in that way before. As I laid on my bed crying, tears of gratefulness that the Lord allowed me to revisit that time and grateful that He showed me how I was to appreciate my scars on my stomach.
Proverbs 18:6 (NIV), A fool’s lips bring him strife, and his mouth invites a beating.
I have been beating myself up with my own words. I was literally making myself sick of my own body. But now since those two breakthrough moments, I am learning to love the body I have today. In Openbible.info, one can find 100 bible verses about the power of words. Here are a couple:
Proverbs 18:21 (ESV), Death and life are in the power of the tongue, and those who love it will eat its fruit.
Proverbs 16:24 (ESV),Gracious words are like a honeycomb, sweetness to the soul and health to the body.
Psalm 19:14 (ESV), Let the words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart be acceptable in your sight, O Lord, my rock and my redeemer.
3 Things that can help you love your body:
1. Speak life not death. Find something positive about the part of your body that you don’t like the most and if you can’t find something ask God to show you. Then wait and listen.
2. Imagine that your words are pieces of fruit. Whatever words you are using about your body is either good fruit or bad fruit. You will chew it and it will find its way towards your core/stomach. Will the words you use nourish your body? Or will it be rotten, making you feel ill and then eventually coming out in Diarrhea!
3. Be encouraged by others. Google, it! There are so many stories of people who have overcame issues regarding their body, even those who are physically disabled. Read others who have faced great pain and heartache and overcame their body image. I have found this exercise to be helpful when I want to throw a pity party.
I can be my worst critic, but I will no longer give myself permission to keep on speaking negatively about myself. With baby steps I am learning to change this bad habit and so can you. Let’s learn to LOVE our bodies. And so I leave you with a quote to ponder; by Eleanor Roosevelt, “No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.”
Angelica Kauhako is a woman who is passionate for the Lord. She was born and raised in Hawaii. Along with being a born-again, Spirit-filled believer, Angelica is also a devoted, loving wife, mother, and, grandmother. She is a sex-trafficking survivor, mentor, college graduate, and holds certifications in substance abuse counseling. Angelica is dedicated to ministering incarcerated women in Hawaii. One of her greatest passions is seeing others accept Jesus Christ as their Lord and Savior because it is through that acceptance for others and herself—that she has seen miracles, faith, hope, and Love be found.